Discipline kids properly is not an easy task

The tone of speech, reaction and action are followed closely.

They do not know what is right or wrong, so every parents should reflect on themselves before they started discipling on the kids.

If you are the one who is lazy and not doing anything, you cannot blame the kids for not helping out.

By screaming and shouting uncontrollably will allow the kids think that it is the right way to do it too.

Have them understand and educate them is necessary after disciplining.

Without doing it, things may be worsen.



If everyone stay under one roof, of course there is always a pros and cons thing.

Grandparents love to interfere with the disciplining of kids.This is somehow tough to deal with.

Until the day they started to realise that why the kids began all the ridiculous manners, they will start to reflect what they had done before.


Wifey recently just shared this well written post which is true in reality.

Teaching and disciplining is not an easy job, especially when the adult have to calm themselves down first.

Hubby used to be very harsh, but recently, he realised himself that he had tone down a lot because he often talk them out in stern manner.


The limit of testing is again set by the kids. They seem to know when is your boiling point strike.
Even after reprimanding, they will still make the same old mistakes again and again.

Several warning had been set, and must be reminded again and again.

There is no excuses for that, lest you want the kids to be disciplined by the police officers, it will be too late by then.

Being strict and focusing hard is hubby intention. Never easy....

Below extracted article is for all to read and share. Learn something from there and adjust your disciplining method if it didn't work well now.

Having the kids beating up will only encoursage them to be more abusive and attempt to learn the from the wrong ways.



10 Tips for Raising Mentally Strong Kids

Mentally strong kids are prepared for the challenges of the world. They’re able to tackle problems productively, bounce back from failure effectively, and cope with hardships competently. Helping kids build mental strength equips them to deal with life’s challenges – both big and small.
Mentally strong kids don’t act tough or suppress their emotions. They also don’t become stubborn or treat others

unkindly. Instead, developing mental strength is about building resilience and helping kids have the courage and confidence to reach their full potential.

Helping kids develop mental strength requires a three-pronged approach: teaching them to replace negative thoughts with more realistic thoughts, helping them learn to control their emotions so their emotions don’t control them, and showing them how to behave productively despite their circumstances.
There are several parenting strategies, discipline techniques, and teaching tools that can help kids grow stronger. Here are 10 strategies for helping your child build mental strength:

1. Teach Specific Skills

Discipline shouldn’t be about punishing, it should be about teaching. Look at your child’s misbehavior as an opportunity to teach specific skills, such as problem-solving skills, impulse control, and self-discipline skills. These skills will help your child learn to behave productively, even when he’s faced with temptation, tough circumstances,

and difficult setbacks.

2. Let Your Child Make Mistakes

Allow your child to learn some important life lessons by making his own mistakes. Teach your child that mistakes are part of the learning process so he doesn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed for getting something wrong.  Allow for natural consequences when it’s safe to do so and talk about how to avoid repeating the same mistake next time.

3. Calm the Negativity

It’s hard for kids to feel mentally strong when they’re bombarding themselves with put-downs or when they’re predicting doom and gloom. Teach your child to silence the negativity and think more realistically. Looking at life’s inevitable obstacles realistically, yet optimistically helps kids perform at their peak.

4. Help Your Child Face Fears

If your child avoids things that are scary, he’ll never have an opportunity to gain confidence in his ability to deal with stress. Whether your child is afraid of the dark, or he doesn’t want to challenge himself to try new things, help your child face his fears. When kids successfully face their fears, they’ll gain confidence to step outside their comfort zones so they can keep growing stronger.

5. Allow Your Child to Feel Uncomfortable

Although it can be tempting to help a child when he’s struggling, rescuing him from all distress will only reinforce to him that he’s helpless. Whether your child is feeling frustrated with his math homework, or he’s struggling to resolve an argument with a friend, let your child experience some discomfort and give him an opportunity to solve the problem independently. Kids can build mental strength by successfully learning they can deal with their emotions.

6. Focus on Building Character

Kids need a strong moral compass to help them make healthy decisions. Work hard to instill your values in your child. Create opportunities for life lessons that reinforce your values regularly. For example, emphasize the importance of honesty and compassion, rather than winning at all costs. Children who understand their values are more likely to make healthy choices – even when others may disagree with their actions.

7. Make Gratitude a Priority

Gratitude is a wonderful remedy for self-pity and other bad habits that can prevent your child from being mentally strong. Help your child affirm all the good in the world, so that even on his worst days, he’ll see that he has much to feel thankful for. Gratitude can boost a child’s mood and encourage proactive problem-solving.

8. Affirm Personal Responsibility

Building mental strength involves accepting personal responsibility. Allow for explanations – but not excuses when your child makes a mistake or misbehaves. Correct your child if he tries to blame others for how he thinks, feels, or behave.

9. Teach Emotion Regulation Skills

Building mental strength requires kids to have an acute awareness of their emotions. It’s not about suppressing their feelings, but instead choosing healthy ways to cope with those feelings. Teach your child how to deal with uncomfortable emotions, like anger, sadness, and fear.  When kids understand their feelings and know how to deal with them, they’ll be better prepared to deal with challenges.

10. Role Model Mental Strength

Showing your child how to be mentally strong – rather than telling him – is the best way to encourage him to develop mental strength. Talk about your personal goals and show your child that you’re taking steps to grow stronger. Make self-improvement and mental strength a priority in your own life and avoid the 13 things mentally strong parents don’t do.